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A Social
Family
Directory
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BY
M. P. HUBBELL.
TOLEDO, O .: THE B. F. WADE CO., PRINTERS. 1892.
COPYRIGHT, 1890.
Dorothy Fisher
reface.
-0- HE first volume of the SOCIAL AND FAMILY DIRECTORY was presented to the public nearly four years ago with the firm conviction that such a book would soon obtain the approval and commendation of the people of Toledo. That conviction has been more than sustained. Since the appear- ance of that first edition, a steadily growing interest in the work demanded a new edition two years later. This edition was larger, better and more complete than the first, and, by the rapidity of its sale, soon demonstrated the fact that the Directory, primarily regarded more as a curiosity than a work of great utility, had become a necessity in the social circles of Toledo.
This third volume, it is to be hoped, will prove more valu- able than its predecessors. It has been entirely re-written ; all of its hints, suggestions and instructions have been derived from the very latest authorities and may be implicitly relied upon as absolutely correct.
Especial care has been given to the names and addresses in the Directory. The lists are entirely new, and, while made on the same general plan of the preceding volumes, will be found more complete in every way. Neither time, labor nor expense has been spared to make this issue of the Directory reliably accurate in every detail.
To the many warm friends who have so materially assisted me in the preparation of Volume III, I desire to express my sincerest thanks, and to assure them that their many kindnesses are most thoroughly appreciated.
M. P. HUBBELL,
328 Elm Street, Toledo.
September, 1892.
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CONTENTS.
PAGE.
PAGE.
Menu Card 9
Handy Hints on Etiquette 11
Monroe Street. 115
Alphabetical List 23
Oakwood Avenue 117
Clubs 71
Ontario Street. 117
Flats and Hotels 81
Adams Street. 87
Parkwood Avenue. 118
Ashland Avenue. 88
Bancroft Street-West. 89
Putnam Street 120
Batavia Street.
89
River Place. 121
Broadway 91
Bush Street. 91
Cherry Street.
91
Stickney Avenue. 122
Summit Street. 122
Collingwood Avenue.
92
Columbia Street.
95
Vermont Avenue. 125
Virginia Street. 125
East Toledo. 95
Elm Street. 96
Warren Street. 126
Empire Street 96
Erie Street.
96
Floyd Street 97
Franklin Avenue. 97
Fulton Street 98
Glenwood Avenue 98
Grand Avenue.
99
Huron Street. 100
Indiana Avenue. 103
Irving Street. 104
Fifteenth Street 133
Sixteenth Street 133
Seventeenth Street 134
Eighteenth Street 134
Nineteenth Street
135
Twentieth Street. 135
Twenty-first Street. 135
Madison Street. 110
Magnolia Street. 114
Maplewood Avenue. 114
Michigan Street 114
Woodruff Avenue-East. 127
Woodruff Avenue-West 128
Tenth Street. 129
Eleventh Street. 130
Twelfth Street. 131
Thirteenth Street. 132
Fourteenth Street 133
Islington Street.
106
Jefferson Street.
106
Lagrange Street.
109
Lawrence Avenue.
110
Lincoln Avenue. 110
Locust Street. 110
Robinwood Avenue 121
Scottwood Avenue 121
Chestnut Street.
92
Walnut Street. 126
Washington Street 127
Webster Street. 129
Superior Street. 123
Detroit Avenue. 95
Park Place 118
Prescott Street. 120
Twenty-second Street
135
Twenty-third Street
136
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MENU.
NAMES OF DIFFERENT COURSES.
WINES.
FRENCH.
ENGLISH.
CORRECT SERVING.
GLASSES USED.
Huites
Oysters
Sauternes
Light Green.
Potages
Soups
Sherry
Hors-d'œuvres
Dainty Dishes.
Rhine Wine
Stem glass, white Red.
Poisson:
Fish
Rhine Wine
Releves
Removes
Clarets
Pure White.
Entrees
Entrees (main dishes)
Champagne
Pure White.
Entrements
Vegetables
Madeira.
Pure White.
Sorbet.
Punch
Roti
Roast.
Champagne
White.
Gibier.
Game
Burgundy
White.
Froid
Cold Dishes
Sucres.
Sweets
Port Wine.
White
Fruits et Dessert ...
Fruits and Dessert
Fromage
Cheese
Cognacet Liqueurs
Small White.
Cafe
Coffee
TEMPERATURE OF WINES TO SERVE.
Sauterne and Rhine Wines slightly cold ; 50 to 55 degrees Fahr.
Clarets, even temperature.
Burgundy, slightly warm.
Champagne, very cold or frozen.
Sherry, slightly cold.
Madeira and Port, even temperature.
SERVING SAME.
Sauterne, Rhine Wine and Champagne, in Native Bottle Sherry, Claret, Madeira and Port, in Decanters. Burgundy, Native Bottle put in Wicker Basket. Sparkling Wines, Native Bottle.
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HANDY HINTS-ON ETIQUETTE.
FIRST CALLS.
When should a lady call first upon a new, and a desirable acquaint- ance ?
Not hastily. She should have met the new and desirable acquaint- ance, should have been properly introduced, should feel sure that her- acquaintance is desired. The oldest resident, the one most prominent in fashion, should call first ; but, if there is no such distinction, two- women need not forever stand at bay, each waiting for the other to call. A very admirable and polite expedient has been substituted for a first call, in the sending out of cards, for several days in the month, by a lady who wishes to begin her social life, we will say, in a new city. These may, or may not, be accompanied by the card of some well-known friend. If these cards bring the desired visits or the cards of the desired guests, the beginner may feel that she has started on her society career with no loss of self respect. Those who do not respond are generally in a minority.
First calls should be returned within a week. If a lady is invited to any entertainment by a new acquaintance, whether the invitation come through a friend or not, she should immediately leave cards, and send either a regret or an acceptance. To lose time in this matter, is a great rudeness. Whether she attend the entertainment or not, she should call after it within a week or ten days. Then having done all that is polite, and having shown herself a woman of good breeding, she can keep up the acquaintance or not, as she pleases.
MRS. JOHN SHERWOOD.
THE ETIQUETTE OF WEDDINGS.
Shall the bridegroom wear a dress coat at the hour of eleven A. M. ? No man ever puts on a dress coat before his seven o'clock dinner, there- fore every bridegroom is dressed in a frock coat, and light trousers. He may wear gloves or not, as he chooses. The best man accompanies him to the church, follows him to the altar, stands at his right hand a little behind him, and holds his hat during the marriage service ; pays the clergyman's fee, accompanies, in a coupe by himself, the bridal party home, and then assists the ushers to introduce friends to the bridal pair.
On arriving at a house where the breakfast is to be held, the gentle- men leave their hats in the hall, but ladies do not remove their bonnets. The bride and groom go first, followed by the bride's father with the groom's mother, then the groom's father with the bride's mother, then the best man with the first bridesmaid, then the bridesmaids with attendant gentlemen, who have been invited for this honor, followed
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by the other guests. Coffee and tea are not offered, but bouillon, salads, birds, oysters, and other hot and cold dishes, ices, jellies, etc., are served at this breakfast, together with champagne and other wines, and finally the wedding cake is set before the bride and she cuts a slice.
A widow should never be accompanied by bridesmaids, or wear a veil or orange blossoms at her marriage. It is proper for her to remove her first wedding ring, as the wearing of that cannot but be painful to the bridegroom. It is the privilege of the bride to name the wedding day. After the wedding invitations are issued, she does not appear in public.
Now the question arises, " who pays for the after cards?" In most cases these are ordered with the other cards, and the bride's mother pays for them. But if they are ordered after the marriage, the groom pays for them. No one thinks of calling on the newly married who has not received either an invitation to the ceremony at church or cards after their establishment in their new home.
A wedding invitation requires no answer unless it be to a sit-down breakfast. Cards left afterwards are all sufficient. But people living at a distance who cannot attend the wedding should send their cards by mail, to assure the hosts that the invitation has been received. Bridal linen should be marked with the maiden name of the bride. It is the fashion for the mother of the groom to invite both the family of the expectant bride, and herself to a dinner as soon as possible after the formal announcement of the engagement. After the bridal pair return from their wedding tour, the bridesmaids each give them a dinner or a party. The members of the two families, also, each give a dinner to the young couple.
MRS. SHERWOOD.
VISITING.
If a lady gives one reception a year, and invites all her "list," she is then at liberty to refrain from either calling or sending a card, unless she is asked to a wedding or dinner, a ladies' lunch or a christening, or receives some very particular invitation which she must return by an early call.
There is no necessity of calling after a tea, or general reception, if one has attended the festivity or has left or sent a card on that day.
In the event of an exchange of calls between two ladies who have never met, they should take an opportunity of speaking to each other at some friend's house : the younger should approach the elder, and intro- duce herself; or the one who has received the first attention should be the first to speak.
Gentlemen, when calling on any number of young ladies, send in only one card, and cards left on a reception day where a person is visit- ing are not binding on the visitor to return. No separate card is left on a guest on reception day.
It is well always to leave a card in the hall even if one is received, as it assists the lady's memory in her attempts to return these civilities. If a lady have a day, the call should be made on that day ; it is rude to
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ignore the intimation. It is proper to call in person or to leave a card, after an acquaintance has lost a relative, after an engagement is announced, after a marriage has taken place, after a return from Europe, and, of course, after an invitation has been extended. No gentleman should call on a lady unless she asks him to do so, or unless he brings a letter of introduction, or unless he is taken by a lady who is sufficiently intimate to invite him to call.
MRS. JOHN SHERWOOD.
INVITATIONS, ACCEPTANCES AND REGRETS.
The formula for a dinner invitation should always be :
Mr. and Mrs. Henry Brown request the pleasure of Mr. and Mrs. Jones's company at dinner, November fifteenth, at seven o'clock 132 Blank St. West.
These invitations should be immediately answered, and with a per- mptory acceptance, or a regret. Never write, saying "you will come if ou do not have to leave town," or "that you will try to come," or, if you are a married pair, that "one of you will come." Your hostess wants to know exactly who is coming and who is not, and as soon as pos- sible, simply say :
Mr. and Mrs. James Jones accept with pleasure the invitation of Mr. and Mrs. Henry Brown, for dinner on Gavember fifteenth, at seven o'clock.
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Remember always that a dinner is a most formal affair, and that it is the highest social compliment. It precludes, on her part, the neces- sity of having to make a first call, if she be the older resident, although she generally calls first or encloses her card.
"To whom should the answer to an invitation be addressed ?" If Mr. and Mrs. Brown invite you, answer Mr. and Mrs Brown. If Mrs. John Jones invites you, answer Mrs. John Jones. We notice that on all English cards the "R. S. V. P." is omitted, and that a plain line of English script is engraved, saying, "The favor of an answer is requested." Nothing is pencilled on a card sent by post, except the three letters "P. P. C." No such words as "accepts," "declines," " regrets," should be written on a card. Send a card without any pen- cilling upon it, or, write a note :
" Mrs. Brown regrets that a previous engagement will deprive her of the pleasure of accepting the invitation of Mrs. Jones."
Invitations to a dinner are always in the name of both host and host- ess, but invitations to a ball, " at home," a tea, or garden party, are in the name of the hostess alone. At a wedding, the names of both host and hostess are given, and if a father entertains for his daughters, he being a widower, his name appears alone for her wedding; but if his eldest daughter presides over his household, his and her name appear together for dinners, receptions, and "at homes." Many widowed fathers, how- ever, omit the names of their daughters on the invitation. A young lady at the head of her father's house may, if she is no longer very young, issue her own cards for a tea. No lady invites you to a " ball" at her own house. The words "at home," with "Cotillion" or " Dancing" in one corner, and the hour and date, alone are necessary. If it is to be a small, informal dance, the word "informal " should be engraved in one corner.
Wedding invitations should be sent out a fortnight before the wedding day, by the parents of the bride. Those who cannot attend the wedding, send or leave their visiting cards either on the day of the wedding or soon after. The question is often asked us, "should invita- tions be sent to people in mourning ?" Of course they should. No one would knowingly intrude on a house in which there is or has been death within a month ; but after that, although it is an idle compliment, it is one which must be paid. People in deep mourning are not invited to dinners or luncheons, but for weddings and large entertainments cards are sent as a token of remembrance and compliment; they in return should send their written regrets, and some ten days or two weeks after leave their cards at the door.
A hostess accepts cards thus left as a call. Elderly persons also are. permitted to send cards in lieu of a call .- Persons in the second stage of mourning though not attending entertainments, must make their calls, and not resort to cards .- (Mrs. John Sherwood.)
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When you wish to regret or accept a formal invitation, pen, ink, paper, and the post, or a messenger, are the proper mediums through which to reply. When Mrs. Jones writes in the third person requesting the pleasure of your company at dinner or luncheon, you reply using the formula accepting or regretting Mrs. Jones' polite invitation, in the third person. Should Mrs. Jones write a friendly note in the first person you should reply in a tone of cordial friendliness, and if Mrs. Jones is an intimate friend you might give her a verbal reply, though a written answer is more complimentary. When invitations to dances, dinners, "at homes," etc., are refused by written regrets, one must, ten days or two weeks after the affair is over, make a call twenty minutes or half an hour long. This is the invariable rule when one is in society.
To neglect replying to an " at home" invitation is a serious breach of etiquette. Either write a formal note of regrets, or enclose visiting cards on which nothing is written.
One never accepts beforehand an invitation to " at home"; one goes and leaves one's card, and in families where one member may accept, and one is forced to regret, the accepted leaves the absent member's card along with her own on the tray .- (Illus. Am.)
The indebtedness of an invitation to a dine is not canceled only by an invitation to a dine in return. A lunch for a lunch. A tea for a tea, and a reception for a reception.
VISITING CARDS.
It is rare now to see the names of both husband and wife engraved on one card. The lady has her own card, with the addition, "The Misses Brown." Her husband has his separate card ; each of the sons has his own card. No titles are used on visiting cards in America, save Military, Naval, or Judicial ones; and, indeed, many of our most distinguished Judges have had cards printed simply with the name without prefix or affix. But the prefix Mr., Mrs. or Miss must be used.
A married lady always bears her husband's name, during his life, on her card, and one year after his death; after that it is optional. If one has a son bearing the same name as his father, it is preferable to take the Christian name than to be called "old Mrs. Brown." No lady should leave cards upon an unmarried gentleman, in the case of his having given entertainments at which ladies were present. Then the lady of the house should drive to his door with the cards of herself and family, allowing the footman to leave them. The young ladies' names, in such a case as this, should be engraven on their mother's card. A mother and daughter should call together, or, if the mother is an invalid, the daughter can call, leaving her mother's card.
" Not at home" is a proper formula, if ladies are not receiving, nor does it involve a falsehood. It merely means that the lady is not at home to company. A mistress should inform her servant after break- fast or lunch what he is to say to all comers. It is very offensive to a
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visitor to be let in and then be told that she cannot see the lady of the house. She feels personally insulted, and as if, had she been some other person, the lady of the house would perhaps have seen her. In calling on a friend who is staying with people with whom you are not ac- quainted, always leave a card for the lady of the house. It is never proper to call on a guest without asking for the hostess. A card should be left, but unaccompanied by any request to see the lady of the house.
In calling on a bride or a stranger, always leave a card with the number of your residence, so that she may know where to return the visit. One does right in leaving a card on the hall table at a reception, and one need not call again. Many busy society women now never make calls, except when they receive invitations to afternoon teas or receptions (Mrs. J. Sherwood). Creasing the corner of one's visiting card is an obsolete fashion .- [Illus. Am.
ON INTRODUCING PEOPLE.
Every lady should remember the English rule that the "roof is an introduction," and that visitors can converse without a formal intro- duction. It does not involve the further acquaintance of these two persons ; they may cease to know each other when they go down the front steps, and it would be kinder if they would both relieve the hostess of their joint entertainment by joining in the conversation, or even speaking to each other. No gentleman should ever be introduced to a lady unless her permission has been asked, and she be given an opportunity to refuse; and no woman should be introduced formally to another woman unless the introducer has consulted the wishes of both women.
In making an introduction, the gentleman is presented to the lady, as "Mrs. A., allow me to present Mr. B.". In introducing two women, present the younger to the older woman. Ball room introductions are supposed to mean, on the part of the gentleman, either an invitation to dance with the young lady, to walk with her, or to talk with her through one dance, or to show her some attention. Men scarcely ever ask to be introduced to each other, but if a lady, through some desire of her own, wishesto present them, she should never be met by indif- ference on their part. Men have a right to be exclusive as to their acquaintances, of course; but at a lady's table or in her parlor they should never openly show distaste for each other's society before her.
It is much more elegant not to shake hands with any one upon entering a room, or at a first introduction : simply make a bow. In her own house a hostess should always extend her hand to a person brought to her by a mutual friend, and introduced for the first time. At a dinner party, a few minutes before dinner, the hostess introduces to a lady the gentleman who is to take her to the dining room, but makes no further introductions, except in the case of a distinguished stranger, to whom all the company are introduced. Here people must remember
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that the " roof is an introduction." A mother always introduces her son or daughter, a husband his wife, or a wife her husband, without asking permission.
A gentleman after being introduced to a lady must wait for her to bow first before he ventures to claim her as an acquaintance. Intro- ductions which take place out of doors, as on the lawn tennis ground, in the street, or in any casual way, are not to be taken as necesserily formal, unless the lady chooses so to consider them. The same may be said of introductions at a watering place, where a group of ladies walk- ing together may meet other ladies or gentlemen, and join together for a walk or drive. Introductions are needful, and should be made by the oldest lady of the party, but are not to be considered as making an acquaintance necessary between the parties, if neither should after- wards wish it. It is always, however more polite to bow; that civility hurts no one.
A lady silently courtesies when introduced, a gentleman makes a deep bow without speaking. If a gentleman extends a hand it should be taken cordially. MRS. JOHN SHERWOOD.
LETTER WRITING.
A long truce is at last bidden to the fanciful, emblazoned, and colored monogram, the crest and cipher are laid on the shelf, and ladies have simply the address of their city residence, or the name of their country place, printed in one corner (generally in color), or, latest device in fashion, a facsimile of their initials, carefully engraved, and dashed across the corner of the note paper. The day of the week, also copied from their own hand-writing, is often impressed upon the square cards now so much in use for short notes, or on the note paper. The plan of having all the note paper marked with the address is an admirabe one, for it effectually reminds the person who received the note, where the answer should be sent. The ink should invariably be black.
Custom demands that we begin all notes in the first person, with the formula of " My dear Mrs. Smith " and that we close with the expressions "Yours cordially," "Yours with much regard," etc. The laws of etiquette do not permit us to use numerals, as 3, 4, but demand that we write out three, four. No abbreviations are allowed in a note as " I'd be glad to see you "; one must write out "I should be glad to see you." The date should follow the signing of the name. The fashion is not now, as it once was, imperative that a margin be left around the edge of the paper. People now write all over the paper, and thus abolish a certain elegance which the old letters undoubtedly possessed. No letter or note should be written on ruled paper. There is one fashion which has never changed, and will never change, which is always in good taste, and that is good, plain, thick, English note paper, folded square and put into a square envelope, (as square envelopes have driven the long ones from the table of the elegant note writer), and sealed with red seal- ing wax which bears the imprint of the writer's coat of arms or initial.
MRS. JOHN SHERWOOD.
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MISCELLANEOUS.
In every instance, particularly in public, a woman's escort precedes her, in order to clear the way for her coming up and down stairs, into restaurants, theatres, and churches, the escort is followed by the woman under his care, and only as she advances into the pew, opera box, theatre chair, carriage or public conveyance, does he step aside to permit her first entrance .- (Ills. Am.)
There is no logical rule of etiquette that demands the removal of a man's hat in any elevator when he travels therein with women strangers. Now, remember, I say no rule of etiquette that demands; however there are men who by reason of instinctive courtesy never enter a hotel elevator containing ladies without removing their hats, though in the elevator in huge business office buildings, where women pass up and down with men they do not carry the pretty courtesy to an absurd extreme. There is some meaning to this distintion. A man who with a woman friend, or relative, enters a hotel elevator, takes off his hat out of respect for his companion ; or, if alone with strangers removes his hat for the same reason that being well bred he does not wear it in hotel corridors. The man who observes these small details of good form, always rises when a woman enters the room, and resumes his seat only after she has been comfortably placed; opens the door for a woman leaving the room, and never forgets to offer an ungloved hand to the woman he greets or bids farewell .- (Illus Am.)
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